Oh Allah, I ask for forgiveness, for my shortcomings, my faults, and for all the times I was careless in my words, for all the times that I’ve hurt people with them. And I ask you to always keep me mindful of my actions, so that I may be the better person You envision me to be.
—Yasmin Mogahed (via lespritmodeste)
Ye duniya aik lamha hai, is mein koi rahat nahin.
This world is a moment, there is no comfort in it.
"The believer has five types of fear.
1. The First is that Allah may take his faith away from him;
2. the Second is that the recording angels may write down something that may expose him on the Day of Resurrection;
3. the Third is that the shaytan may cause his deeds to become invalid;
4. the Fourth is that the Angel of Death may come to him without warning;
5. and the Fifth is that the world may tempt him and distract him from the Hereafter.
1. Fear that Allah may take his faith away from him
Many of us live our lives in such comfort that we are not concerned about losing our Iman. We think just because we are Muslim at this moment in time, we will stay like that, yet we forget the smallest action can nullify our Iman. To the extent, many of the Ulema mentioned that a single thought which is Kufr can make one leave the fold of Islam.
2. Fear that the recording angels may write down something that may expose him on the Day of Resurrection
Some of us are so careful when committing evil deeds to make sure that our friends and family do not see us, but how foolish are we to think that the record keeping angels are not monitoring our every action and thought. Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala says,
‘So, by your Lord (O Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam), We shall certainly call all of them to account. For all that they used to do.’ [Quran 15:92-93]
3. Fear that the Shaytan may cause his deeds to become invalid
The true believer should always be on guard, to purify his speech and actions from the misguidance of Shaytan. We should remember that it is very easy to nullify our deeds by a simple intention and thus we must constantly make sure that all of our deeds are done with sincerity and with following the method (Sunnah) of the Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam).
4. Fear that the Angel of Death may come to him without warning
When this unexpected guest arrives knocking at your door, you cannot turn him away, nor can you ask him to return at a later time, but rather the time is fixed and appointed. We must ensure that we are always doing the good deeds, so that maybe our last deed before we leave this dunya is in obedience to Him. Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala says,
Say: ‘The angel of death, who is set over you, will take your souls, then you shall be brought to your Lord.’ [Quran 32:11]
5. Fear that this world may tempt him and distract him from the Hereafter
One of our biggest temptations is this dunya. We become so busy in chasing this dunya, the cars, the money, the fame, the houses the businesses etc, but yet we forget that the one who chases the dunya never gets the akhirah, but the one who chases the akhirah will get the akhirah and the dunya.
May Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala allow us to fear Him the way He deserves to be feared. Ameen.
[These 5 points were mentioned by Uthman Ibn Affan (radiallahu anhu): Fara’id al-Kalam lil-Khulafa al-Kiram, page 278]
Be kind to yourself. Stop telling yourself that whatever you are struggling with “should” be easy. If something is hard for you, it is hard for you. There are probably Reasons, though those may just be how you are wired. Acknowledge these things. When you finish something hard, be proud! Celebrate a little.
And really, just stop saying “should” to yourself about your thoughts and feelings in any context. You feel how you feel. The things in your head are the things in your head. You can’t change either directly through sheer force of will. You can only change what you do. Stop beating yourself up for who and what you are right now–it isn’t productive. Focus on moving forward.
This just made me cry.